I am Black. I am angry. I am a woman. And, you – you are at the ‘blog ‘website of BlackAngryWomen. I am one of the writers featured on this blog site. My blog name is BlackParentSpeaks.
There are countless reasons for my anger – most, if not all, stem from slavery. That said, it is now time to get down.
Black women have always been the mainstay of our Black world and we have always remained faithful, loyal, forgiving, and self-sacrificing when it came to our Black men especially. We have loved unconditionally and we have bargained ourselves in our quest to help lift-up our Black men, our children, and ourselves. Our journey, borne out of love, has been fraught with pain, sacrifice, and more sacrifice.
On the ‘Black’ side, Black Women have serious issues and problems relating to self.
We have bought in to the objectification of ourselves by others and we are today characteristically confused. Well, it is past time to brush off the images and the facade and to get real. Black women, get rid of the weaves and other forms of fake hair worn atop your heads. Show your Natural hair and stop altering your hair’s natural color. I overstand that you truly believe you look ‘better’ when you are so adorned. But, please believe me – you do not. You are beautiful in your natural state, not in a made-up and phony state. It is your ‘white’ mentality that is leading you to think of your Natural hair as less than…. Be real and project that realness! Feel worthy and good about the hair you were born with, whether it be coarse, silky or anything in between. And, if you do not have hair, feel good about that as well. For, whatever is natural to you is, in fact, beautiful and worthy. Love yourself unconditionally as you travel through life’s journey. As you practice and continue to apply the art of self-love, you will grow strong and stronger in the process.
Know that other Black women, Whites, and fear-controlled Blacks will be taken aback because of the Natural strength you begin to show as you wear and display your Natural hair. However, be advised that many — and possibly most — will do whatever they can to turn you back around. Some will ask ‘dumb’ questions like ‘How did you get your hair that way?’ Some will ask if they can ‘touch’ your hair. Others will ask ‘What is going on?’ or ‘Are you okay?’ The questions and comments will be endless. In some cases, some of the folk you thought of as ‘friends’ will move to separate themselves from you. And, some of the more vocal folk will question whether you are turning into a ‘militant’! Believe it or not, some among the more ignorant will joke about your Natural hair and urge you to return to the day when you wore non-Natural hair. You will be told that you looked better yesterday, when you wore fake hair; and you will be the subject of inquiring stares and unfriendly looks.
Black women, be advised that your journey with Natural hair will not be an easy one. Employers – both White and Black — will be caught off-guard and co-workers may become nervous and uncomfortable working around you. You could be called in to HR (Human Resources) and questioned relative to your Natural hair. Employers who lack integrity and scruples may falsify complaints and reasons to discipline and/or fire you. Some co-workers and employers could even stoop so low as to alter your work in order to make it look like you are mistake-prone, underproductive, and/or nonproductive. You could be labeled as lazy. You could be written up as a difficult-to-manage employee.
It is well-known that many many many White men – and some White women — are sexually attracted to Black women. Well, a Black woman wearing a Natural will experience even more ‘hit-ons’ from Whites. Fact is fact and no matter how many folk feign denial and/or state otherwise, it is what it is. Forewarned is forearmed so be prepared and have your stuff in order…. Stories have been told about most stern and focused White men and White women who lose direction and become overbearing and, sometimes, dangerous in their lust for ‘Natural’ Black women. Please be aware.
Black women must forever be cognizant of who we are and those around us. We who are Black women must lift each other up as we journey forward. We must encourage one another as we embrace ourselves.
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Undying love for Black people!
December 22, 2013 at 5:20 am
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Black Executive Allegedly Fired From BP For Braided Hair And Ethnic Clothing. We’re Not Joking.
The Huffington Post | By Julee Wilson
Posted: 12/09/2013 1:25 pm EST
Melphine EvansMelphine Evans was allegedly fired for wearing her hair in braids and wearing ethnic clothing. | Melphine Evans FB
Melphine Evans, A black former executive at BP (British Petroleum Oil Co.), is suing the oil company for allegedly firing her because of her braided hair and “ethnic” attire.
The 24-page lawsuit, which was filed in California’s Orange County Superior Court, details Evans’ complaints in which she seeks unspecified damages for race and gender discrimination, harassment, retaliation, and wrongful termination.
Several of the outrageous racially charged remarks aimed at Evans are outlined in the document, including the following:
“‘You intimidate and make your colleagues uncomfortable by wearing ethnic clothing and ethnic hairstyles (Dashikis, twists, braids/cornrows).”
“If you insist on wearing ethnic clothing/hairstyles-you should only do so during ‘culture day,’ black history month or special diversity events/days.'”
“If you are going to wear ethnic clothing, you should alert people in advance that you will be wearing something ethnic …”
BP executives claim that Evans, who worked at BP for nearly 10 years, was dismissed because she “did not get along well with her teammates and colleagues” and that she regularly engaged in “bullying and overly aggressive behavior.” However, Evans’ was given her yearly evaluation that stated: “Melphine is a people person. She engages her entire organization and is sincere in her desire to ensure all are valued and heard.”
Something just doesn’t add up. And BP has been tight-lipped on the matter thus far.
“Generally, BP does not publicly discuss personnel issues,” BP spokesman Scott Dean told Courthouse News Service. “However, BP treats all employees fairly. BP disagrees with the claims and will vigorously defend the suit.”
Unfortunately these type of discrimination stories have been popping up quite frequently over the past year. There was that Meteorologist who got fired for her natural hair, the Hooter’s waitress that got canned for her blond highlights, and the little girl who almost got expelled from her school for rocking an afro.
Read more about Evans’ case HERE